... and yet, the nostalgia does not become ruinous when the thing that inspired it disappears or becomes a relic.
Georgia: I think I've reached a place where I can be happy enough with someone's existence to accept their disappearance from my life when the time comes
Wade: Are you referring to someone or something specific? Give me more.
Georgia: I mean in general - I was thinking about how some of my most treasured have drifted in a way that you would expect from casual acquaintances, and some come back intermittently and some don't - I don't have that aching feeling that accompanies heavy loss like I once did
Wade: You are getting used to people fading, that's a sad event
Georgia: Yes, but it's a nice feeling that I can be happy enough with periods of real love no matter their brevity and appreciate that I've been able to reciprocate them without being possessive of them
Wade: True, but it requires a lack of long term expectation, and people too often fall into that regard toward the nature of friendship
Georgia: I'm not worried about that happening. I don't enter into relationships with people with any expectation of their lasting forever, but I maintain the prospect of their becoming something important and treasurable
Wade: Have you always been this way?
Georgia: No, I spent my life being incredibly possessive and emotionally dependent on any love I could get my hands on.
Wade: ...and now, you are adapting to loss by learned helplessness. What will happen to you if you further develop this lackadaisical expectation of connectedness? You will become cold and sad. We are social creatures, and we crumble without connectedness.
Georgia: Don't call it helplessness, because sad and cold is the opposite of my apparent direction which is why I accept it at all. The connectedness does not disappear with the person or thing, is my point... which is why the love remains, made more fervent by weak nostalgia but also made pleasant by the absence of possessive defeat.
... maybe because those i love most are so grandiose - their own worlds - that i can conceive of our collision as being just emphatic and long enough to have made an impressionable entanglement of selves before ricocheting away - worlds gained and only grossly lost.